Saturday, December 26, 2009

A Beautiful Night in Paradise- Chacala, Nayarit, Mexico

Wow! Oh my Gawd! I was just at the beach in beautiful Chacala, Nayarit, Mexico. I actually live here in the winter! it is too amazing! I have been here a month of 2009, busy setting up my house, getting used to being here, and settling in to the routines of life here. I get to be here until mid-March. I am blessed. And a good dreamer!

Tonight I went for a walk on the beach, an hour or two before sunset. It is Christmas time, so the beach is filled with delightful Mexican families from other places. Kids were playing in the water, throwing sand at each other, laughing, dodging waves, and generally moving lots of the energy of the place through their bodies. (When the holidays are over, we will return to our generally empty beach).

The adults were busy with the kids, digging in the sand, letting themselves be burried, or sitting drinking beer and enjoying the delight. The colorful umbrellas lit up the beach like balloons for the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade. When the sun set, the sky turned an amazing orange, even without clouds, and it was so sweet to watch people posing for photos in the orange light, and generally enjoying the moment.

I ran into friends, and we shared a margarita as the sun dropped below the horizon in a blaze of glory. In the mid-heavens, the half moon was hanging, lighting the way home, a perfect couterpoint to the palm trees, and foretelling of the light to come in the next days. What an evening!

On the walk home my compannion and I were laughing with glee about how smart we are to be here, and enjoy this amazing experience of beauty and spirit. I wish you could be here too, and I'm glad that the
beach is not clogged with gringos (AKA, "internationals") buying t-shirts and seashell napkin holders. Please only come if you want to experience a small Mexican village, with the sweetest people, the warm sun, the fresh seafood, and absolutely no entertainment except counting the waves and walking home in the moonlight feeling smug that you created this dream for yourself and most people haven't.

I was carrying a heavy load of clean laundry from the laundromat as I walked, so I was left behind by my companion. That was okay with me, because it gave me more time to love the moon, love the uneven dirt road, and love the silly little dogs that used to bark when I passed but now are used to me an let me go by without raising the alarm.

This is my third winter in Chacala, and my second in my own home. More about home ownership at the Mexico beach and my in-progress under-construction roof top patio and ramada roof in a future post.

For those of you that don't know, Chacala is a little beach village, 90 minutes north of Puerto Vallarta, in the Riviera Nayarit. The beach is the most lovely half-mile crescent of gentle sand and surf I have ever seen in my many years exploring this coast. It is the perfect place for a tropical vacation for those who don't need any entertainment-- except for counting waves, sipping a margarita or cold beer at sunset, and being with yourself. There is no disco, no parasailing, and no all-inclusive resorts. We do have about six or eight thatched palapa restaurants serving the freshest seafood you will ever find, right on the beach, accompanied by local mariachi bands if you are willing.

Some day this village will be overrun by the development envisioned by the Mexican government, and will contribute millions of pesos to the national treasury. In the meantime, it is a treasure of its own, and I suggest you get here as soon as possible, before it is too late. If you want help making that happen, write or leave a comment and I can help with lodging and transportation.

And if you really want to rock, contact me about my Valentine's Week Romance Retreat in Chacala, February 8~12, 2010. It will be amazing. Check my website for details.

See you here.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

I am in Chacala, and it is Warm!

I Made it! I am in Chacala, Nayarit, Mexico!

Well, for those of you who know the story, it was a long ride from Northern California to Chacala this year. I got a bit frustrated when I got attached to my idea of a schedule and the outcome! I know, I know, I preach against such attachments, but I got caught.

I wanted to be here in my winter home by early November, and I was attached to quickly wrapping up loose ends with my wonderful house sitter, saying good bye to my Toltec community there, packing my truck, and hitting the road (a five day drive). . . AND get into the sun and sea of this lovely little beach village.
Many circumstances arose to hold me back and slow me down-- I was weeks "behind schedule." I finally arrived in Chacala just in time Thursday evening to go directly to the Las Brisas Restaurant on the beach for a pretty darn good Thanksgiving dinner with all the usual fixings and some good people.

Now that I am here, all the delays and "problems" seem inconsequential. I made it, I am here, my house was clean and ready for me, everything is perfect-- and always has been (including my thinking I was behind schedule, attached, and frustrated).

Chacala, Mexico, surf, sun, sailboatI went for a walk on the beach this morning. The ocean was sparkling and the air balmy and soft. The surf was gentle, and a few local tourists were playing in the waves.

After visiting with some returning Winter Gringos, I dropped in at
Chac Mool Café, where I treated myself to a big turkey (Thanksgiving leftovers!) and tomato omelet drenched in "crema" (like not-sour sour cream) and green salsa, with beans on the side -- and a great cup of espresso decaf! Ahhhh, paradise. My bill: $4.00 US.

I am very grateful. We at Joydancer had a wonderful summer season. I attended and lead many wonderful talks, workshops, journeys, and other events. Our 5th Annual Summer Celebration of Life in July was amazing, my Conscious Relationship Road Trip to the Pacific Northwest and British Columbia in August was a dream come true, and Teotihuacan in October was our best Journey of Transformation ever! I look forward to more of the same in summer, 2010, and hope you will join me for the magic.

I loved meeting all the new people along the way, and I welcome all of you to our newsletter and the Joydancer family. In future issues I will have news about our new website coming soon, an updated online store, and new video and audio connections to my teaching. Now I am looking forward to a great winter, sharing with you from here in Chacala, and I continue to encourage you to get down here as a visitor, for a personal growth intensive, or for my Valentine's Week Retreat on Love, Romance, and Relationship.
Valentine's group dinner at the beach
(For information about personal growth intensives or help with accommodations and travel, please contact me directly at

I invite you to join me in spreading the word ~ we can and will liberate ourselves from a fear-based cultural dream, and live in happiness in the dream of heaven on earth. What skills or experience might you offer to the new dream through It is time for action, it is time to change the world we dream in our own minds! Let's do it together!

There is no hurry, of course. . . and, not a moment to waste.


I will also be encouraging you, over and over, to join me at the beach in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico, this winter.

Chacala downtown over view
Chacala is safe and clean, the people, sun, and surf are warm and friendly, and the fresh seafood is scrumptious. Nothing scary you are reading or hearing in the news about Mexico is true about Chacala! A paradise this close and unspoiled will not last much longer. Do it now.

I will be here through March, 2010, and I look forward to seeing you. There are at least three ways you enjoy Chacala with me this winter.
Choose yours below. The airport is Puerto Vallarta.

If you have interest or questions, please contact me.
Make reservations early to assure yourself the best accommodations for your needs. I can help.

Use this link to the Valentine's Retreat pages.

Call or write about your Personal Intensive (individuals or couples).

The Joydancer office:
(707) 528-1271
My direct line in Chacala: (707) 206-7623 (Skype, toll only to California).

Or write:

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

“The New Relationship” a Valentine's Retreat & Workshop

I am very excited about our Valentine’s Week Retreat on Love, Romance, and Relationship, coming up February 9 ~ 13, 2009, here at the beach in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico.

Here are ten reasons
you might want to join me and us for this special Valentine’s Week Retreat for singles and couples. . .

  1. You want to do something special for Valentine’s Day.
  2. You want to treat yourself and someone you love to a new way of being in love together.
  3. You are single, and want to learn more about real love.
  4. You want to improve your relationship for Valentine’s week.
  5. You want to deepen your understanding and practice of my Five Agreements for The New Relationship.
  6. Your relationships fail to work, and you want to learn why.
  7. You dream of successful romantic relationships and are looking for a teaching that will support your dream.
  8. You love Mexican food and culture, and you want to immerse yourself in it (the culture, not the food!).
  9. You want to get out of the cold and enjoy the tropical beach in a wonderful small village with great seafood that is easy to reach and comfortable and safe to relax in.
  10. Number 10 is for you to fill in the blank, then come! ___________.
Last evening, on the way back to my home after my daily sunset beach walk, I was enjoying the soft warm/cool tropical air, when I looked up and saw the half moon hanging directly over my head. Venus was appearing as the first star, over the ocean in the west. I thought to myself, why aren’t YOU here, too?? Why are YOU putting up with the cold and wet, when you could be here?? Big Mystery.

Note: The moon will be full on the first day of our retreat. Come early.

One the other hand, we don’t want everyone here. That would be a bit much. So, we are letting you select yourselves. Those of you that haven’t fallen under the spell that I hear is going around up there, something about financial Armageddon, end of the world, lack, collapse, poverty, fear fear fear—those of you free still to dream—you are the ones. Come on down!

I am going to be sharing one of my Five Agreements for the New Relationship one each day of our retreat. They are on my website here with explanations, but here my new agreements as a list:
  1. "Your nature is Love. You are the source of Love in your life."
  2. "You are not responsible for causing people’s emotional reactions to your reality."
  3. "Being the source of love, you are complete within yourself."
  4. "The Truth is more important than the outcome of the Relationship."
  5. "True happiness is the result of love coming out of you."
These agreements are also available as a set of five audio CD’s in the store here. You can book the trip, order the CD’s, pack your swimsuit, and you are ready!

While you are here, there will be lots of time to relax, tan, swim, read, walk, and enjoy the sea, sun, and sand. Whether you are single or in a couple, I guarantee you this week will be a treat for you in more ways than you can imagine.

Chacala is a still-little-known paradise, only 90 minutes north of Puerto Vallarta, on Mexico’s west coast. The half-mile beach is clean, the surf gentle, and the local people are as warm and friendly as the sun and ocean.

The seafood in the beach-side palapa restaurants is fresh every day. The beer is cold, the salsa spicy, the chips crisp, and the view stunning. And I live here! What a great dreamer I must be!!

Lynn in the California Joydancer office and I can help you make arrangements for lodging and ground transportation to Chacala. Rooms with kitchen, bath, and hot water, start at about $40 USD and go up as far as you could want. Food is reasonable. People are finding cheap tickets, too. Want help with air fares? Go here.

The cost of the Valentine’s Retreat with me (think “love, romance, and relationship”) is $600 for the five days. What a deal! ($120 per day!).

Well, the rest is up to you. Operators are standing by (Lynn will actually be away from the office from Wednesday January 13 thru Sunday January 17th so hurry!).

Contacts for information and registration:

BEST: Register and make a deposit in the Joydancer Store here

Joydancer California office:

Allan in Chacala:
  • E-mail: 

  • Skype: “allanhardman” –
  • OR (707) 206-7623 – rings on my laptop.
Chacala landline, from US dial: 011-52 (327) 219-4012

Chacala Resources: